Bridal Stress can be unbelievable!
So many questions! Brides are often worried about walking that line between what is hot and what is not. A bride has a lot of pressure when it comes to decor planning. She knows that what she chooses will be under complete judgement by many of the guests.
She worries if what she chooses will live up to that wedding she attended last summer (because you know that person is invited). Will the cake taste good? What if people do not like Raspberry White Chocolate? Is Sue sitting next to Ben because they do not date any more and Jamie may freak out completely… Did I change the seating chart? Who thought it would be a good idea to let Dan do the toast? We all know he is going to be drunk and tell that story….
She worries if her mother-in-law will like her choices. She wakes up in a cold sweat at 3 am wondering if she made a mistake by making her 3 year old niece a flower girl (because it would be “so cute”)….but will it?! She asks herself things like, “What if the napkins do not match the roses?” Is our wedding hashtag stupid? What if, what if, what if….
These are all normal questions and even the most relaxed bride eventually gets to this place. So what to do?
Hire professionals who are tried and true.
If your budget does not allow for you to hire the best of the best in every area, choose the areas that are most important to you and put your money into a company that can deliver what you are dreaming of. If flowers are your thing (of course they are!) then it is best to hire a florist. A real florist with a track record, who knows how to produce the pieces that you are dreaming of. Yes, they may cost more, but you are also paying for peace of mind.
With a professional, they will be organized and they will be knowledgeable in their industry which means that they will likely be able to give you far more bang for your buck than a novice! They will also be able to for see challenge and head them off due to that experience.
Hire a planner.
Weddings who have a planner at the helm are always going to run smoother than ones that do not. A planner is in place to help keep you focused and on track. They are also there to keep everyone else in good order such as your vendors and guests. They will help your wedding party look its best going down that aisle and they will make sure that your photographer gets your best smile (ok, enough with the rhymes, it was too cute not to). If you do not want to have a planner through your whole process, you can choose one for the day of which will still be awesome!
Schedule your worry time.
Wedding planning can take over a whole brides world (and the worlds of everyone around her). Schedule in time to work on your wedding each week. A few hours a week, an hour a day…whatever works for you. Then when you have moments of miscellaneous worry, jot it down your worries in a notebook and a date and time of when you are going to check on them and who they belong to!
So, that is the basics of reducing stress 101. Sleep, exercise, diet, warm tea, cookies and cuddles also help with stress reduction! Remember, no one will notice the flaws in your wedding day as much as you will. Most often the things that will keep you up at night are are not big picture things. Big picture, you are getting married and that life together that you are building will be amazing. IF something does go horribly wrong….consider it as building memories! You will likely laugh at it for years to come (after the day passes of course)!
You can always call us at Lil’ Pear Tree if you need some more pointers! We love our brides and would be so happy to assist!
XOXO, Team Pear