Bridal Stress can be unbelievable!

Bridal Stress can be unbelievable!

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So many questions! Brides are often worried about walking that line between what is hot and what is not. A bride has a lot of pressure when it comes to decor planning. She knows that what she chooses will be under complete judgement by many of the guests.

She worries if what she chooses will live up to that wedding she attended last Bridal Stress 2summer (because you know that person is invited). Will the cake taste good? What if people do not like Raspberry White Chocolate? Is Sue sitting next to Ben because they do not date any more and Jamie may freak out completely… Did I change the seating chart? Who thought it would be a good idea to let Dan do the toast? We all know he is going to be drunk and tell that story….

She worries if her mother-in-law will like her choices. She wakes up in a cold sweat at 3 am wondering if she made a mistake by making her 3 year old niece a flower girl (because it would be “so cute”)….but will it?! She asks herself things like, “What if the napkins do not match the roses?” Is our wedding hashtag stupid? What if, what if, what if….

These are all normal questions and even the most relaxed bride eventually gets to this place. So what to do?

Hire professionals who are tried and true.

If your budget does not allow for you to hire the best of the best in every area, choose the areas that are most important to you and put your money into a company that can deliver what you are dreaming of.  If flowers are your thing (of course they are!) then it is best to hire a florist. A real florist with a track record, who knows how to produce the pieces that you are dreaming of. Yes, they may cost more, but you are also paying for peace of mind.

With a professional, they will be organized and they will be knowledgeable in their industry which means that they will likely be able to give you far more bang for your buck than a novice! They will also be able to for see challenge and head them off due to that experience.

Hire a planner.

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Weddings who have a planner at the helm are always going to run smoother than ones that do not. A planner is in place to help keep you focused and on track. They are also there to keep everyone else in good order such as your vendors and guests. They will help your wedding party look its best going down that aisle and they will make sure that your photographer gets your best smile (ok, enough with the rhymes, it was too cute not to). If you do not want to have a planner through your whole process, you can choose one for the day of which will still be awesome!

Schedule your worry time.

Wedding planning can take over a whole brides world (and the worlds of everyone around her). Schedule in time to work on your wedding each week. A few hours a week, an hour a day…whatever works for you. Then when you have moments of miscellaneous worry, jot it down your worries in a notebook and a date and time of when you are going to check on them and who they belong to!Sad bride crying

So, that is the basics of reducing stress 101. Sleep, exercise, diet, warm tea, cookies and cuddles also help with stress reduction! Remember, no one will notice the flaws in your wedding day as much as you will. Most often the things that will keep you up at night are are not big picture things. Big picture, you are getting married and that life together that you are building will be amazing. IF something does go horribly wrong….consider it as building memories! You will likely laugh at it for years to come (after the day passes of course)!

You can always call us at Lil’ Pear Tree if you need some more pointers! We love our brides and would be so happy to assist!

XOXO, Team Pear

989-631-5673

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This is one of our HAPPY, STRESS FREE brides from this season! Love you Sydney!!

 

An heirlooms journey from the pages of Leonardo DA Vinci to the doors of Lil’ Pear Tree

​Thirteen years ago my mother passed away from cancer. She was forty six years old. (Don’t worry, this will get better!) My mother was an amazing artist who loved nature and enjoyed spending time in her gardens the most. As with all who are touched by illness, it was shocking when we got the news.

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Here is my mother at age 45 doing what she loved most, capturing nature with her trusty oil paints

In the coming months we did what all families do in times of struggle, we hoped, we prayed and we did what we could to make things better. Actually, looking back I feel that no one believed that she would or could be gone in a little over a year. September came and she went. ​​

In typical east coast fashion, we made our way out of the church to the graveside and said our prayers and goodbyes. Before leaving the grounds for the dinner I took this rose and tucked it into my car for safe keeping.

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This is a very similar flower to the ones that my mother had as a garden hedge. It was almost two stories tall!

When I got to her home, I stood in her empty studio. It was so strange standing there in silence among all of her things, that were now my things. I pulled out one of her Leonardo Di Vinci books and I carefully pressed the rose from her service in the pages for safe keeping.

Life had a lot of ups and downs in the next thirteen years. From time to time I would get to missing my mother and I would go to the da Vinci book and look at the rose. Though the color had faded, the memories and the comfort it brought me never did.

Then it happened….somehow through life challenges, changes of address and

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Here is the small rose I saved!

shuffling about, I misplaced the book! One day I went to look at the garden rose…and it was gone. I was heart broken.

Three years later my husband found the book!

Imagine my surprise and happiness when he came through the door holding the DA Vinci book that held the rose which I thought was gone forever! I quickly looked in its pages and I found it.
​It was still intact…she was still there.

I wasted no time, I brought the rose to
Lil’ Pear Tree the very next morning. I was determined to never let that rose out of my sight again. The flower was made into several beads. One for me and several for my daughters (you know, for some day!).

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Ginevra de’ Benci by Leonardo da Vinci

​The pressed flower was restored to its original color and now is no longer pressed in a book. Gone are the days of worrying if it is safe or if it has disintegrated or fearing it getting wet! It is a durable, wearable memory. I can (and do) take the memory of my mother with me just about every day when I wear my rose bead.

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Here it is! This is the beautiful bead that Lil’ Pear Tree made of the rose that I saved from my mothers garden. It is a true treasure and it will last for generations to come! What an awesome thing to have, I will treasure it always!

And that is the story of my wearable memory.

 

 

 

 

An heirlooms journey from the pages of Leonardo DA Vinci to the doors of Lil’ Pear Tree

​Thirteen years ago my mother passed away from cancer. She was forty six years old. (Don’t worry, this will get better!) My mother was an amazing artist who loved nature and enjoyed spending time in her gardens the most. As with all who are touched by illness, it was shocking when we got the news.

Picture
Here is my mother at age 45 doing what she loved most, capturing nature with her trusty oil paints

In the coming months we did what all families do in times of struggle, we hoped, we prayed and we did what we could to make things better. Actually, looking back I feel that no one believed that she would or could be gone in a little over a year. September came and she went. ​​

In typical east coast fashion, we made our way out of the church to the graveside and said our prayers and goodbyes. Before leaving the grounds for the dinner I took this rose and tucked it into my car for safe keeping.

Picture
This is a very similar flower to the ones that my mother had as a garden hedge. It was almost two stories tall!

When I got to her home, I stood in her empty studio. It was so strange standing there in silence among all of her things, that were now my things. I pulled out one of her Leonardo Di Vinci books and I carefully pressed the rose from her service in the pages for safe keeping.

Life had a lot of ups and downs in the next thirteen years. From time to time I would get to missing my mother and I would go to the da Vinci book and look at the rose. Though the color had faded, the memories and the comfort it brought me never did.

Then it happened….somehow through life challenges, changes of address and

Picture
Here is the small rose I saved!

shuffling about, I misplaced the book! One day I went to look at the garden rose…and it was gone. I was heart broken.

Three years later my husband found the book!

Imagine my surprise and happiness when he came through the door holding the DA Vinci book that held the rose which I thought was gone forever! I quickly looked in its pages and I found it.
​It was still intact…she was still there.

I wasted no time, I brought the rose to
Lil’ Pear Tree the very next morning. I was determined to never let that rose out of my sight again. The flower was made into several beads. One for me and several for my daughters (you know, for some day!).

Picture
Ginevra de’ Benci by Leonardo da Vinci

​The pressed flower was restored to its original color and now is no longer pressed in a book. Gone are the days of worrying if it is safe or if it has disintegrated or fearing it getting wet! It is a durable, wearable memory. I can (and do) take the memory of my mother with me just about every day when I wear my rose bead.

Picture
Here it is! This is the beautiful bead that Lil’ Pear Tree made of the rose that I saved from my mothers garden. It is a true treasure and it will last for generations to come! What an awesome thing to have, I will treasure it always!

In typical east coast fashion, we made our way out of the church to the graveside and said our prayers and goodbyes. Before leaving the grounds for the dinner I took this rose and tucked it into my car for safe keeping.

And that is the story of my wearable memory.

 

 

 

 

How to tell if a vendor is right for your big day

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Lil’ Pear Tree 8/2018 Bride

Your wedding day is one of the most important days of your entire life. It is far too important to trust to just anyone. There are a billion vendors waiting to snag your wedding dollars (go to any bridal show!). They are going to promise you the moon and stars and they are going to have many approaches to do this. The hard reality is that, not all vendors are equal and only a small percentage will be right for you. Choosing the vendors for your wedding can feel a lot like dating! How do you pick? Will this one be good? What about that one? Who is right?

As a floral designer who specializes in bridal, I can tell you I am absolutely not right for every single couple I meet with. Just like not every couple is a match for me and that is perfectly alright. But how do you know, right?!

Well this is a topic our team has given a lot of thought to. This blog was going to be a list, but as we got into it, there is too much for one simple blog so lets focus on personality first.

Most times that first consultation is a casual meet and greet. Everyone’s on their best behavior at this point. I suppose this IS like a date! If you are not careful you can leave that first meeting standing on cloud 9 without knowing anything about the person, process or place that you have just decided to trust with your wedding day experience!

When it comes to personality, you should search your vendor and make sure that they have the following traits:

Excitement

Your vendor should be excited to be part of your day. Excitement is top for me because a lack of excitement can be an indicator of a lack of passion, gratitude and importance for your event. Excitement can seem small at first glance but it has layers of importance when it comes to the levels of care, time and experience you are going to have. No one wants to work with a negative Nancy.

Focus

Do you feel like the most important person in the room? You should because you are. You are the most important person in the room when you are speaking about your wedding to a vendor. Is the vendor focused on YOUR day or are they distracted by the environment or other brides they have or are working with?

Do they Listen?

Make sure that you take the time in this first meeting to notice if your potential vendor really listened to you! Did they ask you relevant questions about what was important to you or did they listen just to respond and convince you that they were a good choice? Solid listening skills are critical when it comes to the proper execution of your wedding day.

Solid communication skills

Do not be afraid to discuss communication with your possible vendor. Wedding Vendors (the good ones) are typically very busy with brides and meeting their needs. Time is not something vendors have a lot of. If your wedding is 12 or 18 months out, you are going to want to be planning your special day when your vendor is committed to working with other brides so it is important to know that you will not be put off or forgotten about. It is not out of bounds to ask your vendor questions about how they like to communicate with clients, how quickly you can expect responses and so on. BEWARE if you ask about this topic and the vendor appears annoyed or unable to answer you in a confident way. That is a flag.

 

Lastly, it is perfectly acceptable to take a day or week to think about things before signing a contract and placing a deposit. If someone tries to put pressure on you to make a decision and commit on day one there could be cause for concern.

Because we know you have lots going on but this is an important topic we felt that we should just quickly list our some of our other thoughts on choosing the right vendor for your wedding day.

Portfolio

Does your vendor have the skill to carry out your wedding day vision? They should have a portfolio available for you to view. They should also have examples that somewhat resemble the work that you want them to do!

Referrals

Do they offer you a list of people who they have worked with in the past who vouch for their game day skills? They should happily offer this to you. If they are put off by you asking for a referral sheet…run.

Process

Does this vendor have a process that is transparent and solid? Have they done enough work to have established proper processes and protocol? You do not want your wedding day to be practice for someone else.

Professionalism

Does your vendor treat you and your wedding in a professional manner? Are they where they say they will be when they should be? Are they on time with email and meetings? Do they do what they say they are going to do when they say they are going to do it?

Contract

Contracts are a very important part of the process. They should protect both parties, not just the vendor. Does this vendor offer you a well rounded contract that protects you as well or is it just in their favor? If they do not have a contract…run.

Budget Talks.

Day one during that first meeting budget should be a part of the conversation even if you do not know what your budget is, the vendor should want to discuss it. Often times we can even help you set one that is appropriate for your needs. Your vendor should not be scared to talk about budget, they are in their area of expertise. You are coming to them to get expert care and input, it is our jobs to help you with that area. Confident vendors know the importance of this conversation and are confident in having it. BEWARE of a vendor that is not able to discuss a budget or who will promise you anything you want for a price you set.

Do they have the right stuff?

As a florist I can tell you it is IMPERATIVE that the florist has solid refrigeration units, processing ability and buying power to ensure that you will have a good floral experience. I can not tell you how many DIY’ers call themselves professionals and will sell you the moon and have no way to ensure you will get it. If they are a florist, they should have flowers in coolers, if they are a catering company, they should have a kitchen, if they are a photographer, they should have a camera and not a cell phone (I don’t care how good of a photo you can take on your phone). You get the idea!

Ok, as always, best wishes on your wedding planning and if you need anything or have questions feel free to call us or reach out!

XOXO

Team Pear

Wedding Designers Favorite Floral Picks for Fall!

So, what I have noticed is that in the fall there can be some confusion  for brides on what floral options are available. Often those not in the floral industry question if there are as many options available in the fall as there are in the spring and summer months. The answer is YES! There are tons of awesome options for fall flowers. Here are a few of my personal favorites! 

The air is getting cooler, the days are getting shorter and fall brides are all aflutter with visions of romantic candle light weddings and beautiful, bold textured bouquets!

I will admit, autumn is my favorite season for a wedding. (The rest of the Pear Team love summer so don’t tell them) I just love how rich the landscape becomes and how dramatic candle light can be. The guests are more comfortable due to the cooler air and lets not forget the most fabulously important point….the bugs are gone and my hair is not frizzy!  No sweating, no bug spray, no melted make up, no frizzy hair….Yes! Fall is DEFINITELY my favorite season.

So, what I have noticed is that in the fall there can be some confusion  for brides on what floral options are available. Often those not in the floral industry question if there are as many options available in the fall as there are in the spring and summer months. The answer is YES! There are tons of awesome options for fall flowers. Here are a few of my personal favorites!

Roses 

Of course, I have to put roses. I love them. They come in a ton of colors. My top three favorite colors for fall are a coral, orange, hot pink and red. There are endless different shades, shapes and sizes when it comes to roses.

 

 

Kangaroo Paw

Strange name, I know, but the color is stunning and the texture it adds to a bouquet is so interesting and fun!lilpeartreeblog5

Mini Calla Lily

Talk about a color pop! This is an excellent choice for a solid and grounding color element to any bouquet. Most commonly brides are selecting wine and sunset varieties.

Zinnia’s

Be still my heart. Zinnia’s are my absolute favorite late summer/early fall flower. Much like the ever popular Dahlia, they come in just about every color and texture. Here are a few of my favorites.

Kale

I know it sounds funny but I love the textures and thick strong leaf of kale. When the weather turns cooler, the Kale becomes beautiful strong shades of greens and purple! Kale is a strong, yet super feminine touch to a bouquet. It is large so it does not need a ton of flowers to accompany it which means savings!! Cha-Ching!

Billy Balls

These are SO COOL!!! They add fun and bright color to any bouquet and they are so cute for a boutonniere! Oh, and they dry like they look so you can save them!

 

Words of TRUTH:

Ok ladies, I know that you are reading, searching and pinning all kinds of flower bouquet possibilities right now. I love to look at them on line and I am a secret obsessive pinner myself. As a seasoned floral designer I am going to offer just a few nuggets of wisdom on fall floral design that the pretty books and photos are not going to say:

  1. Dahlias….they are gorgeous, but they rarely come in the color that you order and if they loose so much as one petal….they will fall apart before your very eyes. If you are going to select dahlias for your fall bouquet (which are INCREDIBLE!!) It is important that you are flexible and make a back up plan for the possibility that they do not live up to your expectations. This is why they were not included in my favorite list, even though they are in the top 5 of my all time personal favorite flower list. If you are a DIY’er….do not order these from Sam’s club. Get them from a professional florist so that they can be properly cared for and prepared for your special day.

2. This is also for my DIY beauties. When the weather turns cold bugs look for                  places to hide, obviously. Wood is one of thier favorite hiding places. If you are            planning on having the ever popular tree ring table centerpieces or on using                natural branches for drama, be very careful that you are not inviting a bunch of         bugs to your reception. Once the room gets warm, they will want to come out of           hiding and this could really change the feeling of your reception to say the least!

Alright sweethearts! Happy pinning, happy planning and happy fall! Best wishes on creating the most incredible, romantic, dramatic wedding ever!! I love you and on behalf of myself and every one here at Lil’ Pear Tree we wish you the absolute best! of everything! If you would like more super awesome flower options for fall (I have barely begun to list them!) give us a call!

Hannah

XOXOXOX